With this week being mental health awareness week and given the current state of the world there’s perhaps few better in boxing to comment on mental health than one Tyson Fury.
Current lineal heavyweight champion Fury has come through more than most in the sport and backed himself when very few else would.
Ultimately, this is surely what it comes down to for anyone in life.
Man or woman. Rich or poor.
You’ll meet many chumps and low level bums in life who’ll try to use you for your free advice or pick your brains for your valuable time, or tell you what you should do, or even who you are according to their limited human perception.
Or they might seem confused, or a little slow at the level you are operating at mentally just being too fast for them.
Besides it becoming very easy to see through people like that the older you get in life — all of that stuff in the end is irrelevant nonsense anyway.
It’s what you think that counts. In the very end, that is.
Once you fight your demons and beat them the rest is a cake walk in life. It really is.
This trip to Italy taught me that I’m a total addict. Indeed, addiction has been the main weakness I’ve been working on in recent years.
I always thought it was just the booze but really its loads of stuff like food, women, work, substances, smoking and gambling in my very young days and loads, loads of other things.
Certain things like coffee just don’t agree with me either, too much headaches from it. Adios coffee.
The only good addictions I’ve found being the gym in a balanced way, work makes me happy but not working like a maniac like I used to and also daily health improvements.
One day at a time.
It’s a kick in the stones frankly but now I realize why God gave me so much ability and talent by balancing it all out with a viciously addictive personality. I finally get it.
I’ll always have that addictive personality for the rest of my life now. No getting away from it.
But it’s a choice if I choose to stay in active addiction or not.
We all have a choice everyday in life.
Never forget that.
No matter how bad things might seem.
You have to stay strong and keep on trucking until you can’t truck no more.
I now have found my reason to stay alive for now, not destroy my work, my creation in this website and myself — nor hurting myself anymore through many ways on purpose — and to stay sober and indeed work towards more new goals in the future.
I’ve decided to do it for my (birth) mother in heaven who I didn’t get a chance to meet.
A woman who reached out to me in my twenties whom I never met in my life, only to then receive a letter from her just a few years after she had died when I went looking for her that she wrote trying to reach me before she left.
A letter addressed to me as my name at birth, Patrick, now my middle name.
Indeed, this trip and pandemic got be thinking about the reason why I started this site years ago in the first place.
It was born out of learning of my biological mother’s death in 2014 with me missing her funeral in 2009 after starting the search process not long after that I guess but my memory ain’t the best. Nor my eyesight.
Never have been in truth. Even soberly.
But getting the news in 2014 taught me that life isn’t going to last forever and to follow what I want to do in life as someone who has loved the sport his entire life.
I am very sorry I didn’t get to say goodbye to her or meet her before she went and this sums up pretty much the very root of the problems I had over the years:
I’ll never get that chance to see that woman’s face, hear her talk, hear her laugh, see her smile or ask me how I was. I’ll never have that chance to meet my mother, not yet anyway, and God help the man or woman who prevented her from meeting me if I ever find them in this life.
I somehow don’t think they’d be brave enough to come across me or any of my people, I suspect.
Over the years I’ve considered and toyed with the idea of taking out various lawsuits for justice and/or damages stemming from feeling betrayed at birth to various other things, which, I’m sure I would have easily won and without difficulty crushed various people in a number of ways without much effort in truth.
My whole life I never really felt part of a family to be honest.
That changed a few years ago, though, now having some small family as well as friends around the world who I count as family.
I’ll start my own family anyway in the years ahead in America but looking back on it all, God is good.
No doubt in my mind.
Life is a test I truly believe.
Winning, fighting and entrepreneurship are pretty much who I am as a person but there comes a time in life where you just have to let go and let God.
I truly believe God is control and if you have give him the glory he’ll give you the victory in the end.
Moreover, the above would have made me a bad guy, which, I’m not. Fundamentally you have to forgive in order to move on.
Furthermore, life is short as my uncle used to say.
It passes most people by while they make grand plans for it instead of making each day count.
A German-born Swiss fella also used to say too that you can’t fix problems with the same way of thinking as before. He’s right you know.
It is what is. What are you going to do. I accept it now. There’s no more denying it. She’s gone.
But, in honor of her, I’ll stay sober between now and when I meet her again. That’s the reason for me in life to stay strong, sober and carry on for now.
As for modern day human psychology, with respect, while it might be useful for some, honestly, it just proved not enough, nor advanced enough for me in the end.
The end of this scene in the Sopranos summed it up for me, in truth:
No one has all the answers and for me, in the end, God is the final judge and in control.
Starting this website was inspired to be honest after learning of my mom’s death years back.
I’ll be holding my own private funeral ceremony shortly for her at a chapel. I’ve never been fond of goodbyes to be honest but it will be bye just for now.
Something I wanted to do on my own in the past and I’m man enough to admit for the first time, that all this week in private I’ve been crying my eyes out ahead of it.
Soberly for the first time.
It’s something I should have done a few years back when this crap all started, and the years of isolation and lonesomeness in a prison-like existence that ensued, that to me, made this pandemic look very small in comparison.
I suppose hindsight is a wonderful — if not a painfully, ironically annoying thing in this instance.
Man, what a weight off me to even write that.
There’s always someone worse off out there and all you can do is your best and try to have a positive impact on humanity during your time here on Earth I’ve found at least.
Once you are dead honest with yourself, know the demons, batter them and overcome them, there’s really little that you can’t do in life.
Don’t you worry about that for a second.
Trust me, I’ve achieved many huge goals in life already, traveled the world and seen a lot and I’m still only 32. To be honest I can’t bloody wait for the rest of life now.
Switching gears, you must know your value and never let someone else decide it as if you do it will be less than what you’re worth – as former middleweight champion Bernard Hopkins poignantly put.
You have to have all your eggs in your basket as one English fella Guy Ritchie said one time:
You’re beliefs and faith are your own. Not anyone else’s. People are powerless over you in reality.
You’re writing your own book ultimately.
A dear friend of mine and an American gentleman of the highest caliber and outstanding character said one time that the teacher will appear when the student is ready.
Life is a constant learning journey and I’ve found, for what its worth from my own meandering experience I guess, that one must be ready to learn every day of their life to be a better version of the man you were yesterday.
That’s all I try to do nowadays.
I’ll always be Irish but I suspect after all this travel is done that I’ll end up back home, where my heart and spirit is now.
Back in the good ole USA.
Where I am already there in reality — in every State with readers in you guys across the country online being American.
This pandemic and being without my passport for a while, stuck in Italy, taught me I really have moved on now and to be honest, no longer have any interest in going back to Ireland.
I’d rather promote Irish interests around the world from America where there’s over a hundred million of us scattered across the Earth as opposed to the small five million or so that live on the island itself.
In the years ahead through some new ventures, if I’m lucky that is.
I humbly and without ego say, it was just too small in the end and I just got sick of the s*** weather — adios to that outside of some vacations back — maybe down the road in a few years.
On a brighter, positive note, I love the challenge, the hunt and the testing of myself and pushing limits and America is the ultimate hunting and testing ground for this within the entrepreneurship mindset for high-level English language speakers and communicators.
Having the biggest boxing site in Ireland, the UK and then Europe for reader numbers, although were all things I achieved with relatively little effort back in active addiction, to be honest — were never where the challenge was for me — always leaving a bit in the tank and bread in the fishes mouth for one day in America to turn on the real stuff — while working on my weaknesses in the meantime.
I was always driven to be the best since a kid. That’s just how I’m wired.
I’m a very intense, full-on, old school kind of guy but perhaps a bit an odd sense of humor.
It’s not for everyone but I am enough for me and my own people.
You can’t please everyone and these days I just take people on face value and go by life’s golden rule — treat others how you’d like to be treated yourself.
If someone or businesses go the other way with me or people I care about, which isn’t often these days for some reason, I never lose when it comes to people or people they care about.
For some reason. I’m not sure why that is to be honest. I tend to believe God puts you where you need to be in life.
I just live life now in the present and when it comes to work am just emotionless nowadays for work tasks.
Business is business but one must never do business, friendships or relationships with women who are liars.
That theme is ubiquitous to all aspects of humanity I have found over the years.
To be honest all I actually know is winning. That’s all I actually understand.
My Irish grandmother used to say I would have been one of the best lawyers.
Maybe in another life who knows 🙂
That mentality has always been with me all the way back since my chess champion days starting out as a kid in sunny Ireland.
Admittedly, Scotsman Alec Ferguson and Irishman Roy Keane were both big influences on me as a child growing up in Ireland as a Manchester United fan, as was my Irish uncle I must concede.
Those three probably influenced my personality according to human comprehension of the word, more than anyone.
I don’t care what anyone says, America, as well as being the home of the best people in the world — is still the best country in the world in my opinion — as well as being home to the best sport in the world (boxing).
Era, maybe I’m a tad bias but sure, what harm 🙂
Opinions are like a**holes — everyone has one.
Until then, being blessed to be able work online anywhere in the world with an internet connection and travel while working has allowed me to remain small and flexible.
Maybe Ukraine, Russia or Africa next — who knows. One day at a time.
Thanks to you good folks. My readers.
I am very thankful and grateful.
Big shout out to the good people of the UK too, London and everywhere else that has read this site in the UK and the many great people I’ve met who’ve helped in England over the years.
Like Ireland and America, England will always have a special place in my heart too — I’m sure I’ll be back again one day.
While I don’t have any heroes or idols in life (other than God) there’s certainly some people in life I have time for and a good bit of respect for in fairness.
Fury without doubt is one of them.
This brilliant interview with Adam Smith of Sky Sports (hat tip) where Fury rattles off literally ten times how he was written off is one of a kind.
Surely for a boxer in recent memory at least:
A man who believed in himself throughout all the darkness to get to where he is today.
As for his next fight, Fury is expected to take on Deontay Wilder in a third fight at a date to be determined.
With today also being Eid al-Fitr have a safe and peaceful day to any of our Muslim readers around the world.
While Fury might be a modern boxing genius in his own right — I recall another heavyweight one from the past especially on today — Muhammad Ali no less with a rather incredible video appropriate for the day that’s in it:
Ali showed to never try to get smart with, p*** off or come after a genius unless you want some rather extreme consequences.
Perhaps the best example of this was against Cleveland Williams where Williams just didn’t quite realize what type of genius he was coming after:
What a fighter and what a human being.
Moving forward as some of the restrictions start to lift around the world continue to stay safe folks and do the recommended things.
It appears that boxing will be back on June 9th via promoters Top Rank in the US.
In conclusion, thank you to all you folks, the readers of this website over the years, one — along with all the social media and partnerships around the world that I’ve built from nothing with some help from great people over the years — who I look forward to seeing again down the road — that I’m quietly contented and at inner peace to see still serves a purpose by circulating to (still) a huge audience of you all — my readers.
I’m more grateful than you’ll ever know.
Only this week again another article has gone viral across the web, somehow.
During a time where very little boxing content is doing big numbers I managed to do an article that did bigger numbers for a single one that I ever penned to date.
Fighting is our business. Thanks for everything.
Niall Patrick Doran